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Dating Multiple Women is Like Planting a Garden
多重关系就像种花园(感谢您一直关注我们坏男孩,找一个真心爱你的女朋友,掌握追女生聊天约会恋爱技能,#推广#,坏男孩官方导师手把手教你怎么和女生聊天约会专业帮助你恋爱情感困惑,让你喜欢的女神喜欢上你!)
One of the keys to successfully dating multiple women is to think of it as one would think of planting and caring for a garden. If you were planting a garden, would you just plant one seed and sit around and hope that that one seed would make all of your dreams come true?
后宫管理的核心,就是像打理自己的花园一样管理自己的多重恋爱关系。当你种植花园的时候,你会只种下一枚种子,然后坐等它实现你所有的梦想么?
Of course not… that wouldn’t make any sense.
答案是否定的,这是不可能的实现的。
Some of the reasons why you would not grow a garden this way are not as obvious as they seem. For one, if you only have one plant – you will surely smother it. You will over water it, over care for it and basically just smother it. Also, if you are relying on that one single plant for food, you will not only have to wait a long time to get something of value out of it, but you are also putting all of your risk into one place, which is never a good idea.
不要只种一棵植物在自己的后花园当然还有一些深层次的原因。比如说,如果你只种了一棵植物——你会过度的溺爱它。过度的浇水,过度的照顾,最终的结果却是它被你的溺爱毁掉。同时,如果你只种了一棵植物的话你不得不等待很长的时间才能获取它的价值,你把所有的风险都压在它这一棵上,这显然不是一个好主意。
Conversely, if you plant multiple plants over time and care for each of them when they require it (mature plants require less maintenance than a plant that is germinating and requires moisture every day). Also, while some plants are just starting out, others are producing food that can be eaten.
相反地,如果你种了很多的花朵在你的后花园,你会更平均的分配你的精力从而也让花朵们得到更科学的照料(成熟期的花朵不需要像发芽期那样每天小心翼翼的呵护,但是每天需要水的滋润)。当一些花朵刚被种下的时候,另外一些花朵已经长成待摘。
By not smothering any one individual plant, but instead providing each plant just enough sustenance to survive, grow and thrive – you will have a plentiful harvest.
通过减少对单一花朵的溺爱从而科学地分配了你的精力在更多的花朵上,保证了每朵花儿的成活和绽放——你将会拥有一个欣欣向荣的后花园。
How does this apply to women and dating?
我们在泡妞中将如何借鉴这个理论呢?
Instead of focusing all of your energy on one woman, spread your focus across multiple women. Some will be just FRiends, some will be in the infancy of a relationship with you and others will be established friends with benefits.
相对于把注意力集中在一个女人身上,你需要将自己的精力分摊开来。一些女人只是朋友关系,一些处于发展期中的关系,剩下的则是已经确立了的恋人关系。
You won’t smother any single woman. You won’t be needy as there are other ‘plants’ in your garden to also focus on. You also won’t be pushing women for intimacy too early on as you will have other women who are at that phase of your relationship. To push the analogy and at the risk of sounding crude – while some relationships are growing, others are ready to be harvested.
你不会过分宠溺某个女人。你不会显得饥渴,当你的后方花草丰盛。你不会跨越阶段的去跟女人约会,因为你选择面很广,你不缺。当有些花朵你刚刚种下,另外一些你将可以采摘。
This is a great strategy while dating, as it allows you to date more successfully, and will enable you to have very satisfying relationships.
这是把妹中的一种很伟大的战略问题,它会帮助你最大化的发展关系,最大化的体验满足。

Of course once you and one of the women you are dating become more serious and decide to become exclusive, you also will know that you had many options and chose the option that was the best fit for you.
当然如果有妞想跟你发展更高层次的恋爱关系,你也知道自己有很多的选择,通过比较你可以知道她是不是你的最佳选择。
Another great aspect of this is you will have a variety of women in your life to spend your time with. Some girls will be great for going to the opera, others will be fun to have in for movies and another girl may be perfect for taking out to guys night or the baseball game.
这么做还有一个好处是,你会在自己精彩的生活中融入更多的女孩子,跟更多的女孩分享生活中的快乐。有的女孩适合带去看歌剧,而有的女孩适合带去看电影,还有一些女孩可以陪你去跟哥们聚会或者去看棒球赛。
This will give you options, and a choice of who you choose to spend your time with. Eventually, you may choose to spend all of your time with just one women, but you will never be forced to do this.
这一切都取决于你。也许最终,你会选择将你的所有生活只与某一个女人共同经历,但这也应该是你主动地选择,而不是被迫为之。
Both you and your partner of choice will benefit from this.
你和你的僚机都会在这种战略中获益。



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